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                        just wanted to let you know that the same exact thing happened to me...i was fifteen and i got herpes from oral sex, i too was a virgin.  i,too, was devastated and thought i could not face the world.  i have learned tho that like i hope you have learned, it can be kept under control...and you can have a normal life.  i know you are afraid what to say to your future love, but just be honest, i know that sounds hard, but in the end it will be best.  and be safe....use protection, especially if you have any sores.  i haven't had an outbreak since my first one 3 yrs ago, and i heard that the best way to prevent outbreaks, is not to think about them!:)  God bless you and good luck!