Diane
Keep fighting and asking questions. It took until my daughter was almost 19 to get a diagnosis. Most doctors don't have a clue what Asperger's is. It's our job as parents to keep asking questions and giving them the information. I spent a good six months doing research on the internet to take to our family doctor, who is wonderful by the way. He's told me numerous times that I'm his teacher,as my daughter is the only Asperger's patient he has ever had or seen. It sounds suspiciously to me from what you describe, that your sons may have this disorder. Keep plugging away and enlist your family and friends to keep an eye out for any articles etc. on either autism or asperger's. YOu are not alone