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                        Barry, there is no clear-cut answer to your question because so many factors contribute to the problem.  In general, love and patience, understanding, empathy, and forsight, are key solutions; but those are only the beginning.  Please email me and I will offer any help that I can.  :)  Writedream2000@aol.com