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                        Jeanne, my daughter is 24 yrs old.  She was told she has herpes when she was expecting her second child.  She had to have a C-section due to herpes, or the baby would be infected.  The father of her two children is in prison, a real loser in every way.  It took a long time for her to have any confidence again, but she is now dating a guy her age who loves her kids and her.  Don't let your friend discourage you (is he really a "friend"?) My daughter is responsible for her choices, but she also is working very hard at bettering herself for her children and herself, and I'm proud of that.