Deborah
It may be helpful for you to go to Ala-non the friends and family support group for people that may have Alcholics in their lives. This group will help you to deal with this person and give you tools in possibly helping them with their drinking and more importantly helping you deal with their drinking. It's not an easy situation to be in -- it's heartbreaking and frightening plus about another thousand emotions on top of these. I know, Ive been there. And someone suggested I go to Ala-non 14 years ago and I did. It changed my life -- which has become so good -- I can't even begin to tell you. I walked into that meeting feeling absolutely hopeless and angry and frightened. And it wasn't soon after I learned tools that helped me to deal with it all. Look in the white pages for Ala-non or you can always ring AA and they will direct you to Ala-non. Hope this helps. Good luck with it all. You will be in my thoughts.